As the executive director of the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association just emailed out “Today, GLMA joins with supporters of equality from across the country to celebrate yesterday’s historic election results, which set the stage for a new era in the quest for LGBT equality.” On one hand I’m glad that 3 more states passed “marriage equality” yesterday. Between these 3 states, Minnesota’s voting down on marriage discrimination, Tammy Baldwin’s win, and the re-election of Obama, yesterday was a big victory for queer rights.
On the other hand, I am beyond angry and hurt. How is it a victory when we are still letting other people vote on MY RIGHT to get married and have a family?! How is that not, in it’s very essence, discrimination? And while these amendments are being billed as “marriage equality”, we are still far from equal, even in states where gay marriage is legal.
If I am to fall in love with someone overseas and get married in a country where it is legal, I have no rights to get them citizenship or protection in the US. If I fight in the US military and live in a state where I’m legally married, I still cannot offer military partner benefits to my wife. Even if I file my taxes as a married couple on the state level, my federal taxes will still be filled as single, creating a huge f*ing mess. This isn’t even separate but equal… this is straight up inequality!
I think these state measures are a Band-Aid. They are hiding the real problem and leading the general public to believe that the LGBT community is finally gaining equality. But we are not! As long as the public gets to vote on my personal rights, I am very much not equal and I will not be satisfied by placation of a few new state amendments. I still have no national recognition of my love. I still don’t have the ability to adopt my (theoretical) children if born to my (theoretical) wife in many states in this country. Hell, I can still be fired from my job or openly discriminated against for my sexual orientation in some states.
The Supreme Court needs to finally rule on prop 8 (this mess has been going on for 4 years now). DOMA needs to be overturned. We need to stop letting the public vote on the rights of minority groups. We need to expand anti-discrimination policies and regulations. We need to give queer kids hope for their future… Come on people, we can do so much better.